Learn 3 surprising ways you block having what you want in your relationships (and life) and how to unblock yourself.
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Our world is starving for connection, begging for forgiveness, and craving generosity. More self-awareness and radical responsibility are essential to truly be at peace with each other.
If you're here, you believe in awareness, growth, and magic. Each of us can craft our lives without staying captive to the cards we’re dealt. And yet, the gap between who we could be and who we are now is far and wide. This is the breaking point for many creative and entrepreneurial people...and their relationships.
This may be your story.
This may be the reason why you’re not able to savor all of your life. You feel empty at home, but you know there must be a better way. A fire still burns in you for the relationship that matters the most, though the challenges you're having might be starting to erode some of your confidence at work.
I was married to the perfect guy: handsome, rich, creative, fun, reliable, and I was dying inside. It wasn’t his fault - it was that I didn’t know how to show up in my creative genius and invite him to meet me at the depth I need in relationship. He couldn’t win.
For years, I felt like I didn’t fit in with my various social circles. He was the life of the party that everyone wanted to fit in with, but I felt like a misfit.
My health got worse. I could barely get out of bed each day. I wanted so badly to stay married, but I was beyond unhappy. I believed I was broken and incapable of being happy in a long-term committed relationship. My deep hunger for transformation and growth starved my relationship to its eventual death.
In my own Eat, Pray, Love journey, I went to Indonesia to scuba dive and grow my photography — that’s when life came surging back into my being. Energy, light, and joy restored my heart as I gave myself permission to simply be happy again and stop twisting myself to fit the wrong form.
Leaving my marriage was my escape path to freedom, not from my former husband, but from the identity that never fit. I needed to be alone, learn boundaries, and learn to listen to my deepest self where my genius lives.
As you’re reading this, you may be tempted to make a mistake and think that I would advise you to leave your relationship. I would never do that, because it may not be the best choice for you. Staying in your relationship may be the best decision you ever make, but you owe it to yourself to know who you are first.
I’ve helped many people navigate this question and I never know in advance what the answer will be. My skills are not in telling anyone what to do, they’re in listening for and asking questions that evoke your deepest truth.
I'm also not here to tell you everything's going to be okay. I'm here to support you in redefining what okay looks like for you, so you can have more love and joy in your life than you've ever imagined before.
I'm now partnered with a man I adore, co-creating a relationship designed to hold all of us: our depth, our genius, our sexiness, our playfulness, and all of our messiness.
I have this now because I've been doing the hard work of aligning with who I truly am and freeing my creative genius, so I could invite the right person to join me in creating a meaningful, unapologetic future together.
I work at the intersection of your relationship with yourself, your love of your work, and your love of your partner, so you can have love without limits.
I have a magical combination of exquisite listening, a judgment-free yet honest perspective, and an uncanny intuition.
I guide you to see your patterns of relating—to yourself and your partner—in a refreshing way, so you can make new choices with greater awareness.
I focus on the parallel paths of INNER WORK and OUTER WORK:—Inner work is about clarifying your values, learning which thoughts to accept and which to ignore, and falling in love with even the messiest parts of you, so you can free your creative genius in your life.—Outer work is about taking positive action steps, such as making meaningful requests, setting healthier boundaries, and listening well that set you up for success in every area of life.
You’re unwilling to own your stuff in your relationship — forgetting that it often takes two to ruin love.
You want someone else to fix you - I’m your coach, not your fairy godmother.
You believe that affirmations and positive thinking are how you'll get what you want. Sometimes you have to take a cold, hard look at the ways you're out of integrity with yourself. But I believe in infusing that honest look with love (instead of wallowing in shame), because getting real with yourself about what's not working and mobilizing your power to change it is a profound act of self-love.
You're not willing to celebrate all the ways you're already loveable just the way you are.
You’re not ready or willing to invest in your growth and freedom.
You’re rocking your work, but your relationship is slipping through your fingers.
You don’t love how you talk to yourself and even how you feel about who you are right now. You know you’re extraordinary, so why aren’t you showing up that way in every area of life?
You have two loves—your work and your partner—and you want to weave them together in a way that frees your genius and feels great to everyone.
You’re willing to look at yourself with honest eyes and make new, maybe even tough choices to craft the creative, loving partnership you deserve.
You want a deeper flow with life's magic, so you can live in synchronicity and love in every area of life.
I’m a published poet and underwater photographer.
I grew up in three cultures: American, Venezuelan, and Swedish, speaking three
languages, and feeling like an outsider in all of them.
I have a Master's degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and another in poetry.
I still remember a poem in Mandarin that I memorized in college.
I'm a really good dancer.
I own a hyperbaric chamber.
I love to dive with sharks.
I blog regularly over at Medium. Click here to read my publication!
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